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Wednesday, 16 May 2012

  • When it rains, it pours.

    Today was an unusually stressful day. Since last week, I've been outrageously swamped with work. I really don't understand why everyone chooses to spam me with e-mails and work right before I am leaving on my vacation in 3 days. My work consists of either no work or everything at once...much like my life. I guess I just have to deal with it. I can handle it only because of my personality.  I prioritize things and cease to care about everything else in life. Detaching myself from reality is something I am very skilled at. I function more 'efficiently' that way, but life is a lot less fun. I guess that's what I'm like when I get into work mode. Everything is about efficiency. There's no time for emotions, feelings, discussions and anything else that can cause me more stress. It's times like these that a good supportive friend, family or significant other are worth so very much.

    This is a different from a face I have, as this is my actual personality. I am often aloof and emotionally detached when I have something else on my mind. My playful personality takes a back seat, while I have to get down to business. Serious side takes over and there is no time for b/s. I am especially harsh and blunt during these times. It would be wise not to waste my time as I will get pissed off rather easily. The thing about me is that when I do, I really don't care about what people think about me. I know myself all too well. I'm an extreme kind of guy and I'm rather unpredictable. My personality ranges from playful to detached to overly passionate/angry. And if any of you can't handle that, it'd be best to stay the fuck away from me. Don't say I didn't warn you.

    I apologize for the swearing. It's just one of those days. I used to swear so much...haha. I guess maybe my serious mode is just a reflection of my rebel self. Oddly, it work very well in the workplace.

Monday, 14 May 2012

  • Happy Mother's Day

    Today is Mother's Day.
    That being said, I think I'll write an entry about my mom.
    My mom is a housewife and has been ever since I can remember.

    She was very authoritarian when I was younger - the typical 'asian mom,' where studying takes priority over everything else in life.  I remember always doing school work several levels above my age. I remember it being very brutal with a lot of blood, sweat and tears.

    My mom always handled everything around the house. I didn't help her around the house at all. I tried when I was younger, but she always said that I was just in the way. And now that I'm older, I've gotten use to her doing everything around the house, so I still don't really do much - unless she specifically asks me to do something. She always wanted me to focus on school/work rather than wasting my time on chores. I guess that was her way of showing her support.

    I used to always argue with my mom (and I guess I still do..) because of her authoritarian personality. This strong personality of hers has grown more lenient over the years which has switched from ordering me around to a quiet sort of  nagging and suggestion. Although I find it annoying most of the time, I do appreciate it once in a while - I get rather lazy/forgetful at times.

    Over the years, my relationship with my mom has significantly improved since I started communicating with her. Diplomacy is very important in my family, as well as giving concessions and simply just ignoring criticism and harsh words. Communication is not my mom's strong suit and she sometimes says what she does not really mean. Patience and a cool head can do wonders in these circumstances. When/If  I lose my temper, I find that things just seem to go south very quickly. If I stick with either not replying or replying positively (when I agree) however, things usually turn out better. Are arguments tend to stem from my mom being a very conservative person, while I'm quite the opposite.

    Regardless, I really do thank my mom for taking care of me all these years. Without her support, I would not be able to concentrate on school and passing through it so easily. Authoritarian study habits that were pounded into me as a child, tends to make my mind learn things faster. The 'if you don't do it, you'll die' mentality works wonders for school, at the cost of enhanced stress. Luckily for me, stress seems to not affect me very much. I find that worrying about something is the biggest waste of energy. Life has so many more interesting things to focus on than our own worries. Not to mention that worrying about something doesn't change the outcome at all.

    Happy Mother's Day Everyone! Hope you all realize that although moms can be rather annoying through their incessant nagging, they really do wish the best for us. And we should all be grateful for that.

Friday, 11 May 2012

  • Friends, Loneliness and Who I Am

    I am going to try blogging on my phone. Excuse me for typos and grammatical errors ahead of time. Doing this will hopefully limit the length of my posts.

    Today I will be going to another house party for the night. Hopefully it gives me a chance to unwind, since today has been a very busy day. There is one person I don't particularly want to see there, but I've had to deal with worse. Putting up poker faces are my specialty. Being my age, life is all about dealing with people. A lot of the times it is with people you are not too fond of, especially at work. But I bear with it, and deal with it maturely. I'm no longer an age where I can afford the luxury of caring only about myself. I go to the party to be with my friends. I will never let anybody or any experience stop me from doing so. There are some things more important than my own feelings. Celebrating with my friends are one of these things.

    I am the type of person who always had a bunch of people around me, but few people who really understand me. I appear to have a really lively social life, but that being said, I am still very lonely. Being with people solves the problem of being alone, but loneliness still exists.

    Have you ever been to a party where you only know a few people and all of them are out mingling? You aren't alone but it is one of the worst feelings of loneliness you can ever experience. It's as if your very existing does not seem to matter. This is why I don't like clubs because this feeling happens a lot there.

    I may lie to myself that I am a person who can pick up girls at clubs (which I probably can) but I am fundamentally not that type of person. I can change how I act, but I can't change who I am.

    I try to, and that's probably why I have so many faces. I'm a brilliant actor who's lost in all the roles I'm playing to survive. Only recently have a started to give up that life. How is it possible for someone to understand me when I don't even understand myself?

Thursday, 10 May 2012

  • Trust and Thoughts of People Around You

    When you're on the subway, or a car, or anywhere with a seat - do you tend to lean back and relax? Or do you still keep your posture, even though the back rest is there?

    For me, I have a tendency to never lean back on my chair. It's as if I don't trust the backrest to hold my whole weight...Perhaps, my body is trying to tell me something. My body is almost always in a constant 'alert' mode while I am awake. Though my mind may be relaxed, my body does not like to follow suit. My muscles are usually very tense and I really should stretch more to relax them.

    Trust is an interesting concept. It's difficult to earn and even harder to maintain. Once you lose it, it's never really the same. I don't trust people easily but they seem to trust me. Why? It probably relates to the whole entry I wrote about me being a very straight forward person who shares everything about themselves. If you take the time to learn about who I am, I don't see any reason why I should hide anything from you. I'm thankful of anyone who does it really.

    One person knows so many people in life that it's impossible for them to recall, relate, think and talk to everyone of them. For someone to think about me - what I say, what I'm doing and just my general well being is quite an honour. Why out of so many people in the world do they think of you? It's a hidden compliment that's sometimes overlooked.

    There's nothing better to brighten someone's day then by letting them know you're on their minds. I don't know about you, but it really brings up my spirits.

Wednesday, 09 May 2012

  • Dealing With Changing Times

    Yesterday I had a discussion with my parents about how people my age/generation have a difficult time deciding what to do with their lives. I had made a comparison between myself and my parents. In my mind, my parents always seemed to know what they wanted in life and where they were heading. 

    They responded by saying that the world they lived in and the world I live in weren't the same. Back then, all they had to do was graduate from school and you'd be guaranteed a job. Company loyalty was also appreciated so people would stay at one company for a very long time.

    But my dad mentioned that life isn't like that anymore. Things continue to change, there's uncertainty in everything. He pointed out that it wasn't possible to just have a fixed goal/plan in today's world. You need to be able to adapt to anything. Technology is a very good example of this. I was born in 87' and I witnessed the birth of the internet and the boom of the computer. I would never have imagined I'd be blogging about this in 2012 back when I first used the internet in 97-98. 

    I had mentioned that I only had a general direction of what I wanted to do in life, but nothing substantial. And they said, maybe that's the best type of plan to have in today's society. A flexible plan. Interesting concept...

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