Today is Mother's Day.
That being said, I think I'll write an entry about my mom.
My mom is a housewife and has been ever since I can remember.
She was very authoritarian when I was younger - the typical 'asian mom,' where studying takes priority over everything else in life. I remember always doing school work several levels above my age. I remember it being very brutal with a lot of blood, sweat and tears.
My mom always handled everything around the house. I didn't help her around the house at all. I tried when I was younger, but she always said that I was just in the way. And now that I'm older, I've gotten use to her doing everything around the house, so I still don't really do much - unless she specifically asks me to do something. She always wanted me to focus on school/work rather than wasting my time on chores. I guess that was her way of showing her support.
I used to always argue with my mom (and I guess I still do..) because of her authoritarian personality. This strong personality of hers has grown more lenient over the years which has switched from ordering me around to a quiet sort of nagging and suggestion. Although I find it annoying most of the time, I do appreciate it once in a while - I get rather lazy/forgetful at times.
Over the years, my relationship with my mom has significantly improved since I started communicating with her. Diplomacy is very important in my family, as well as giving concessions and simply just ignoring criticism and harsh words. Communication is not my mom's strong suit and she sometimes says what she does not really mean. Patience and a cool head can do wonders in these circumstances. When/If I lose my temper, I find that things just seem to go south very quickly. If I stick with either not replying or replying positively (when I agree) however, things usually turn out better. Are arguments tend to stem from my mom being a very conservative person, while I'm quite the opposite.
Regardless, I really do thank my mom for taking care of me all these years. Without her support, I would not be able to concentrate on school and passing through it so easily. Authoritarian study habits that were pounded into me as a child, tends to make my mind learn things faster. The 'if you don't do it, you'll die' mentality works wonders for school, at the cost of enhanced stress. Luckily for me, stress seems to not affect me very much. I find that worrying about something is the biggest waste of energy. Life has so many more interesting things to focus on than our own worries. Not to mention that worrying about something doesn't change the outcome at all.
Happy Mother's Day Everyone! Hope you all realize that although moms can be rather annoying through their incessant nagging, they really do wish the best for us. And we should all be grateful for that.
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